It is sad that so many people don’t know how to receive love and how to receive each other. Yes, I am talking about the simple beautiful human love. Yes, it is beautiful. And yes, it is beautiful and it is good to be a human. And I do not want to deny myself being a human just as I am a spiritual being. It is one.
People have been so tainted and hurt by their experiences that in act of self defense and retaliation they go onto hurting others, denying the human experience, including human love and defining it as something “bad.” It is not bad even though you may be sometimes. The fact that human love is often conditional does not make it bad. It is our preconditioned, corrupt and afraid mind that distorts everything.
Human love is profound, deep and true. It may be hard and intense at times but it is only attempting to push us through our boundaries and barriers so we can grow and allow the other person in the relationship to grow as well, if they are willing to take the journey on both the high and the low roads. It may not always be tender and sweet. It may not always be pretty. That doesn’t mean it is bad and hurtful; that’s what makes it to evolve into something better OR to dissolve revealing it was not love to begin with. True human love can never be lost or dissolved, and it is possible.
It can get heated and angry but heat and anger are not bad things. Heat allows you to sweat out and purify yourself, and to burn through your issues about yourself if only you are willing to look at your “stuff” without playing the game of blaming it on the other person. Anger has its purpose but everybody wants to sweep it under the rug. As said in one of my favorite books Bringers of the Dawn, “If you would allow yourself to express and experience your fears, which might lead to the expression of your anger, you would learn something. These emotions are techniques that move you beyond your personal boundaries of identity and behavior, and you are simply afraid of experiencing this. Love your emotions. As long as you describe something as difficult, you are making it difficult. No one else is. You are resisting and judging the changes coming about. You are feeling that you do not know what is going on, and you wish to be in control. Control is something very convenient and very handy. The old human pattern says, “You must be in control.” However, you have to be very selective to what you decide to control or not control. “
The sad thing is not that people don’t know how to love but that they don’t know how to receive love. A lot of people actually know how to be givers but few know how to be receivers. There is doubt, mistrust, blame, resistance, barriers, feelings of low self- worth and not deserving…towards WHAT? Towards what can be an amazing heart-breaking experience. And you know what…even if it is heart-breaking, it is a heart breaking open to allow the love from another to bleed into you, feed you and assist your growth and success beyond possible. It is intense and it is worth it. It is hurtful but it is only hurtful in those parts that you yourself have not resolved, and you need to understand that it is not love hurting you but you who hurts yourself. Pain is not necessary. But you are necessary to love, to forgive, to go for it and most of all to allow to be loved even if that means your heart gets broken, even if you make mistakes and then you need to fall down on your knees and ask forgiveness, and to allow yourself to go for love.
Sometimes we are so so caught up in our “independence” that we don’t realize that the “freedom” we THINK we need and want so much is actually a prison of our fears and ego.
We must make ourselves available to Love. We must allow ourselves to be loved fully and to Love fully. There is no other way to happiness and fulfillment. Love is Divine.
“This comes straight from Mantua, Italy, south of Verona, where archaeologists have found the intertwined skeletons of two lovers from the Neolithic period. As you can see from this phenomenal photograph, the two bodies, which cuddle closely while facing each other on their sides, were found together locked in an embrace. What’s better is that the place where they were found in the area where Shakespeare set “Romeo and Juliet.” Have we found some even older and more real star-crossed lovers?
The scientists say that these two probably died young, based on the fact that they had all their teeth back in a time when dentistry, charitably, was probably even worse than that scene in “Castaway” where Tom Hanks has to whack out a tooth with a rock.
